Teaching True Love to a Sex-at-13 Generation by Eric Ludy

Author:Eric Ludy
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: ebook, book
Publisher: Thomas Nelson
Published: 2010-11-06T00:00:00+00:00

As young people mature and blossom in their sexuality, they experience a growing desire to express their sexuality. And, contrary to the Christian mind-set that most of us have grown up with, this isn’t all bad. It isn’t necessarily harmful for a child to long to share her life and her love with another human being. In fact, that simple longing, if properly directed, can be the foundation for a beautiful, lifelong love story. But it is harmful if she takes this hankering for love into her own hands and scripts herself a sex-at-thirteen lifestyle.

There is a healthy, godly way of directing these budding desires and there is a selfish, ungodly way. Train your children to take these “love hankerings” and use them as opportunities to invest in their future marriages rather than as temptations to destroy their current lives. Teach them the selfless way, not the selfish one.

The concept of romance is really the concept of thoughtfulness. It involves meditating on what would make someone else feel loved and cherished and then doing it. By helping your child harness these “love hankerings” into real-life opportunities to express thoughtfulness to his future spouse, you can not only help satisfy his newfound true-love longings, but also help him practically invest in his future marriage. You can teach him how to be a romantic even before he meets his future love.

There are so many things young people can do now, in their single years, to invest in their future married years. The simple question, What would make my future spouse feel loved and cherished? goes a long way to transforming a young person’s perspective on this issue. A love letter? A love song? A love poem? The sky is the limit when it comes to what your kids could be doing for their future spouse even now, before they meet him or her.

ACTION PLAN

Two Practical Ways to Tackle This Challenge in Your Life Today

1. Encourage your child to become a romantic. In today’s world, it isn’t easy for young people to live out lifelong faithfulness for their future spouse. Young people who have made this commitment need regular reminders of what they are waiting for. Encourage them with some practical and romantic ways they can invest into their future love life even now. Eric and I know quite a few young people who have begun keeping a notebook of love letters to their future spouse. Whenever they feel discouraged, impatient, or tempted to settle for short term flings, they take some time to write a letter of love and commitment to their future marriage partner. It helps them think of their future spouse as a real person, and helps remind them that they are learning to love that person even now. Encourage your child to explore creative ways of expressing his or her commitment, whether through writing love letters, composing love songs, keeping a hope chest (for girls), or simply praying a specific prayer each night for the person that he or she will one day marry.

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